“And this gentleman is?”
He arched one eyebrow so it pointed directly at me.
I found myself crafting this response in my head: I’m not a gentleman.
But then I couldn’t say those words, because I pride myself on being a gentleman.
“My name is Rae,” I said, leaving him to figure out the rest.
It’s the hair. I haven’t been misgendered for a long time. Then blam. My hair becomes too long to spike up and sits on top of my head like a lid. There’s a bit of an overhang. It’s like having a little roof over the front portion of my head. It’s the Barney Rubble look that I wrote about here.
What’s a butch to do. Keep calm and Barney Rubble on. Someone make me a T-shirt, please.
In other news, I finally saw The Lego Batman Movie. Now, W and I pew-pew each other and the cats with our invisible laser guns after she gets home from work.
In more other news, check out this cool new documentary called Gender Troubles: The Butches. You can view it for free through March 28, sir.
Oh, one more thing, I’m giving away copies of my book, Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender, on Goodreads. You can enter to win here. You know you want to. Hurry, time’s almost up.
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What’s new with you?
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Get out your rainbow T-shirts and your labrys necklaces. Your Birkenstocks, too. You know the drill. It’s June, which means Pride is here in all of its ROYGBIV glory.
And what’s Pride without your butches. It’s like french fries without catsup (I did, too, spell it that way), Melissa Etheridge without water — somebody bring her some, a lesbian couple without a cat or a Subaru.
What does being butch mean to you?
Leave your best answer in the comment section. I’ll mail out prizes for the top 3 answers. Y’all like free stuff, don’tcha?
You had me at socks.
You can win a copy of my book or a pair of these cool socks. Are you butch enough to wear them?
You don’t have to be a butch to play or to win. But if you are a butch, then you are always winning. Because you look good in a baseball cap.
Here’s a sample of what being butch means to me:
- Always carrying the heavy stuff for her, even though she is more than capable of carrying it herself.
- Listening to anything I want to in the car with the window down. Even Barry Manilow. That’s “Weekend in New England,” motherfucker.
- Rocking a necktie when every other woman in the room is wearing a skirt or a dress.
- Owning regular T-shirts and dress T-shirts, regular sneakers and dress sneakers, regular flannel and dress flannel.
Tag, you’re it.
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You know you’re a humongous lesbian when you get engaged to your lady friend. And you happen to be a lady, too. Plus, foam trucker caps.
Congrats to Family Values Lesbian! You, my friend, are the biggest lesbian ever and the winner of The Flannel Files’ latest contest! You can read about FVL’s engagement and other adventures here. Tell her Middle-age butch sent ya.
Thanks to everyone who participated. If it makes you feel better, you’re all giant lesbians! You can read the other entries in the comments section this post.
FVL, send me your mailing address, and I’ll send you out a copy of my book. Or, e-mail you an e-book, if you prefer. You can find my contact information on my homepage.
Last weekend, I did, perhaps, the lez-iest thing ever.
I went to the vet with my lesbian wife and two of our cats. Bodhi and Sammy. We are a walking, talking stereotype.
We had brought them in for their annual exam. They passed with flying colors.
However, we had to bring one of the cats back today. He had a cut on his paw that had gotten infected. I didn’t feel like a giant lesbian today. It was just me, my lesbian wife and ONE cat. Totally different.
Here’s Bodhi after his vet appointment.
They wrapped his paw in a pink leopard print bandage. He doesn’t seem to mind. He is not a very butch cat.
All this got me thinking. What about you? What have you done recently that left you feeling like the world’s biggest lesbian? Organized a potluck after your softball game? Went on a shopping spree and only purchased cargo shorts?
I’ll pick the best answer and send out a copy of my book as a prize. Or if you already have the book, I’ll send you out some other butch swag. A bow tie or beer opener or something butch.
So, what are you waiting for? Leave a comment now!
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Guys, it’s been a crazy couple of weeks.
Chewbacca and me. Abducted by a Wookie in Target of all places.
This explains why I haven’t posted in so long. It’s a complicated Butch in Spaaaace tale.
While I was away, my book got a really great review on the lesbian website Autostraddle. You can check it out here. Perhaps the best compliment any butch writer can get: “A smart and eloquent memoir about becoming butch, Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender will resonate if you have a proud copy of Stone Butch Blues on your shelf, or listen to “Ring of Keys” from the Fun Home musical on repeat.” That’s pretty great company, folks.
Speaking of Fun Home, just 15 days until W and I become official Fun Homies!
I wanted to be this guy.
I just wrote a new memoir piece about my obsession with my brother’s Big Josh action figure. Does anyone remember Big Jim and Big Josh? Geez, Barbie was so lame in comparison.
If you like free stuff, I’m giving away two signed copies of my book on Goodreads. You can enter here. But don’t wait too long. The giveaway ends Sept. 30.
That’s all the news for now. What’s new with you?
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Guys, check out my guest post on the fabulously awesome Women and Words. Oh, and if you leave a comment, you’ll be in the running for a free copy of my book, Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender. Because who doesn’t like free stuff?
Women and Words
Happy Sunday! We have a fabulous guest blogger for y’all today! Rae Theodore recently released her debut novel Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender.
She’s here to tell us all about her inspiration for the book. And, because she’s super fabulous, she’s giving away a couple of paperback copies. Drop a comment in the space below and I’ll draw the winners next Friday, 7/17.
Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender
by Rae Theodore
As I sit here wondering what to write for my guest post, I’m hyper-focused on the word “Women” from the Women and Words logo that sprawls in dark red script across the top of the website as if standing guard.
For a moment, I feel like an interloper, but I remind myself that I’m a different kind of woman.
I’m a butch. A masculine-presenting woman. A cherry red Tootsie Pop with a center comprised of flannel shirts…
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Mark your calendars, folks.
I have an official launch date for my book.
Leaving Normal: Living in the Middle of Boy/Girl comes out June 26. That’s three short months from today.
So exciting! So scary!
W and I have just started planning the book launch party. We’re looking for a local LGBT charity to donate a portion of the profits to. We considered adopting a softball team, but it would probably involve way too much paperwork.
As far as the book goes, I’m picking out cover art now. I have it narrowed down to three covers. I need to make a decision soon but keep changing my mind. I just got back first edits, which I’m going to comb through this weekend.
It all seems so surreal. I was updating my blog a few weeks ago and got to cross off “write a book and have it published” from my bucket list. Such an awesome feeling. I pounded my chest like Tarzan and actually high-fived myself like a big giant butch dork.
I’m looking ahead to marketing. Making lists. Sending out e-mails. Thinking about press releases, guest blog posts, etc. Three months will go by really fast.
So, here’s where you come in. I need your best promotion ideas. You know me. Lovable butch with a fondness for flannel. You know about my book. A heartwarming tale about a lovable butch with a fondness for flannel.
Pitch me your best book promotion ideas. Think outside the box. Because isn’t what this book is all about. Living outside the box. Those M/F boxes. And every other box related to gender. Get inspired. Get crazy. Get butch.
I’ll even make it worth your while. Best idea wins a free bow tie.
Your pick … posies or paisley.
So, get to thinking. Can’t wait to read what you come up with!
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