My books

MyMotherSaysDrumsAreForBoysMy latest book is My Mother Says Drums are for Boys: True Stories for Gender Rebels (Regal Crest 2018). If you’re into supporting lesbian-owned businesses, you can pick up a paperback copy or e-book at Bella Books. Books and e-books are also available through Amazon and other online vendors, if that’s how you roll.

I dedicated this book to all the girls who were told drums are for boys and other gender-based bullshit. So, grab a copy if that’s you or if you want to read about my awesome mullet circa 1996, my Gina Gershon obsession and how the clerks at my local Blockbuster store were the first folks who that I came out to. (Spoiler alert: also lots and lots of flannel.

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leavingnormalLeaving Normal: Adventures in Gender (Regal Crest 2017), Goldie Finalist for creative nonfiction.

Here’s what Autostraddle had to say about the book: “A smart and eloquent memoir about becoming butch. Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender will resonate if you have a proud copy of Stone Butch Blues on your shelf, or listen to “Ring of Keys” from the Fun Home musical on repeat.”

Paperback copies and e-books are available at Bella Books. The e-book version is available through Amazon and other online vendors.

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OurHappyHoursOur Happy Hours: LGBT Voices from the Gay Bars (Flashpoint Publications, 2017). I have a poem in this anthology that was created after the massacre at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida. The anthology was curated by writers Renee Bess and Lee Lynch and contains contributions from LGBT writers from all walks of life. In addition to Bess and Lynch, contributors include Ann Aptaker, Joan Nestle and Karin Kallmaker. It was an honor to rub elbows with such literary luminaries, even if it was just among the pages of this book.

Books and e-books are available through Bella Books and  Amazon.  E-books are also available through Kobo and Nook. All proceeds benefit LGBTQ youth charities.

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IMG_2972Nonbinary: Memoirs of Gender and Identity (Columbia University Press, 2019). I have a story in this book about the time I was at one of those superstores and a teenage girl stared at me a little too hard. It got me thinking about what she saw in me and what I see in myself.

The book is an essential read if you’re curious about gender and everything associated with that potent six letter word. These stories will make you laugh and cry and re-think everything you thought you knew about gender.

Books and e-books are available through Columbia University Press and Amazon.

Contact me at for autographed copies of any of these books or if you’re interested in obtaining copies for school libraries or LGBTQ spaces.

11 responses to “My books

  1. I thought my co-worker and I were the only ones fascinated by cats who look like Hitler!
    Sometimes I go around murmuring “Galifianakis, Galifianakis” to myself because it’s a cool name. And I’m nuts.

  2. I wish I could get a good haircut. I don’t blame the hairdresser (much), it’s my fault for not being able to come up with a decent photograph of what I want my hair to look like. Then again even if I got my hair styled I doubt I could then recreate it the following morning…ho hum….

  3. Hi Middle Aged Butch, I tried looking for your book today and I can’t find it anywhere, it seems to be unavailable.

  4. Read this book, its a great read and really helped me towards understanding what’s going on with my daughter.

  5. Yes, I need to buy your book for my gorgeous ‘tomboy’ girlfriend, who similar to you buys ‘male’ clothes, and feels a bit in-between (which is seriously one of my favourite things about her) : ) Cheers, Gabrielle in Australia (am looking forward to Following along now)

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