Young and foxy Middle-Age Butch in 2011. This is the part where W shoves cake up my nose.

W and I are celebrating our anniversary this weekend.

We had a commitment ceremony on Oct. 1, 2011, and a wedding three years later on Oct. 11, 2014, when such a thing finally became legal.

Typically, we celebrate the entire month of October because why not. Besides, it’s our reward, or spoils, for not being able to marry back in the day.

In 2011, we had a carnival-themed commitment ceremony in a small live music venue a few miles from our house.

W and I went back there last weekend for a concert.

IMG_8663-1I was struck by how small the place looked with its tiny wooden stage jutting out in front of a bright blue backdrop dotted with white lights in imitation of the sky at night.

At our commitment ceremony, it looked like that blue background had stolen all the stars in the galaxy.



That night when we said our vows, the place looked so big. We had a full-size pasta buffet and a candy bar with empty bags declaring, “Love is Sweet.” We brought in an old-fashioned popcorn maker and a photo booth.

Everything fit and there seemed to be so much room for all of our family and friends.

What changed?

Maybe the world changed.

Our lives seem larger now, filled with bigger possibilities as we go through life not as partners but as wives.

Maybe we changed as we found ourselves wanting more from life and started believing we deserved it.

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Hope you find something to celebrate this weekend. 

18 responses to “Anniversaries

  1. Happy anniversary!!

  2. Congrats! I’m happy for you both! 🎉🎂

  3. I am celebrating all weekend…This evening is a Shamanic Journeying Circle. Tomorrow is a workshop on Star Children. And Sunday is an all day workshop with author, Beth Kephart, at Longwood Gardens. Yay for me! Happy anniversary!

  4. Happy Anniversaries!

  5. Happy Anniversary!!!! 😀

    … it’s like going back to the place you grew up in. It’s never the same.

  6. Happy Anniversary. You are two of the luckiest people I know. – I’m not celebrating anything this weekend, but I am standing up. Standing up against hatred in response to a mass mailing of flyers that were received by residents in three local towns. I’ve been helping to organize a silent vigil for tomorrow night to be held at our main intersection. If more people were as fortunate as you and W to feel the joy of real love, I believe hatred would fade. Keep sharing your love with one another, and with the world. We need it. xo’s

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