Wow, summer is almost over. I was in the grocery store yesterday and overheard a group of rabid moms chanting, “One more day, one more day!” Kids here go back to school on Monday. Nothing like overworked, overtired mothers throwing their kids under the school bus.
It’s been a weird and wacky summer. Our oldest was away at camp for six weeks. The middle one was home for about half the summer but is now back living at his dad’s house. The youngest spends long stretches of time in his room. So, Middle-age butch had lots of time to herself.
I had planned on being super productive this summer: Cooking healthy and tasteful meals using fresh produce purchased from our local farm stand, writing ten chapters for my memoir, cleaning up the yard, building a brick “pad” for under my bird feeder, organizing the house, romancing W, saving the world and blogging about everything in my downtime.
Turns out that I did the opposite of that, which pretty much means that I did nothing. I have learned that I am irresponsible when it comes to idle time and work much better under the pressure of a deadline. Must be the writer in me.
The summer wasn’t a total loss, though. Here are some highlights:
- Finished a few memoir chapters. Perhaps, more importantly, I got back to getting down and dirty and writing about the things that really matter, even though they are the hardest to write about.
Strengthened my relationship with W. We had a lot of alone time this summer. We even had a romantic dinner at a nice Italian place that had live music. It was just like Lady and the Tramp, except that we’re lesbians and not dogs. Although I have been called a dog more than once. We’ve been putting a lot of time and effort into improving our relationship and our communication, and it’s been paying off.
- Went to P-Town, just me and W. Saw a whale, a drag show (I will never look at Katy Perry the same way) and a whole lot of gay boys in very short shorts.
- Fed and pet a pair of giraffes. I love giraffes. So gentle, so graceful, so beautiful. We have a small zoo near us that currently has two males on loan from other zoos. W got pictures of me feeding them. I’m even smiling.
- Went to the Jersey Shore. Found shells on the beach. Ate pizza and french fries and drank lemonade.
- Discovered a writer named Ivan Coyote, who has blown my butch mind wide open. Ivan, I hope to grow up to be just like you.
Went to a ball game. Not a major league game but a minor league game. Drank beer. Ate ice cream out of a plastic baseball helmet. Note: This is the all-time best way to eat ice cream. Kept score. Admired the green, green grass. Loved every single minute of it.
- Made multiple batches of rustic tomato sauce with farm-fresh tomatoes and homegrown basil. And, BLTs with beautiful, ripe, red tomatoes.
- Saw a lot of movies. Favorite: The Way, Way Back.
- Celebrated my one-year anniversary with WordPress.
So, with summer wrapping up, I’m looking forward to getting back to normal, to daily to-do lists and kids at school, to cooler days and a more industrious frame of mind.
- Work on my memoir and other creative writing.
- Blog, focusing on quality and not quantity.
- Romance the socks off of W (even though she rarely wears socks).
- Organize, fix up, clean up the house.
- Live healthier.
- Spend more quality time with the kids.
- Continue to move forward and reveal more of who I am.
It’s interesting. My life has been filled with so many transitions. I came out later in life, identified as a lesbian, then called myself a “soft” butch because it seemed less offensive. Now, it’s just “butch.” It’s all been an evolution, and I find that I’m not done changing, growing, learning.
A writer friend of mine said that when all that we want to do is lounge around in our elastic-waisted sweatpants and watch TV, there’s a reason for it. We should allow ourselves to do so, taking note of what we’re watching and how that might be exactly what we need at the moment.
I think it’s good advice to not be so hard on ourselves and to feel deserving of our down time.
So, folks, your favorite butch is rested, relaxed and ready for just about anything. Bring it on, world.
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What about you? How was your summer? Any highlights?